People lie for several reasons but just because they do it doesn’t mean it is acceptable. Ina relationship, you are likely to find two kinds of liars.

1. Those that lie out of guilt, shame , fear of conflict or the loss of love. They lie while in reality it is easier to actually tell the truth. hey really want to be honest but they cannot pull it off. This is primarily because they fear they will lose the other person’s love. They have never been in a relationship where they really felt safe. While their motive may seem “pure” your work is not rehabilitate them. They should this in their own personal spaces and correct this kind of behavior. One doesn’t become complete by having a person with them. They should be able to be whole and have a high self esteem before they get in to love.
2. Those that lie as a way of operation. They deceive for their own selfish gains. These are the no go zone people. If you happen to be in a relationship with such a person, you’d better say bye and leave. They are not ready for a relationship and they can never commit.

Truth must be an essential boundary that you desire not only in relationships but in everything else.

Incase of lying,

1. You confront the person concerning the lie.

2. Hear the response and see the sorrow and ownership and sorrow for lying.

3. Try figure what the lie means for the relationship.

4. Look at the level of repentance and change. Is there a pursuit for holiness and motivation to get better?

5. Note if the change been sustained or it is just for a time. Is it a pretense?

6. Also ask what was the motivation for lying.

Even a s you pursue or desire honesty in your relationship, you must be an honest person as well. You attract the depth of your pursuit.