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Forever was the goalWith you my girlAnd I your guyWith our love as the gold.Eternity was the dreamLove filled to the brimWith you my beamAnd forever dancing to our rhythmMy sunlightMy MoonlightThe star in my nights.I never wanted the sun to setYet you leftNow I am daily bentForever was too short My love now lostAt… Read more
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God cares about your love life. He cares about who you marry more than you actually do for yourself. You are not alone as you deal with your desire to be married. Actually, it is God who has kept that desire in you. Who you marry is incredibly serious and that is why you cannot… Read more
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The path to love can be painful, if there’s lack of intentionality but there is a way to navigate the process that can avoid a lot of needless pain. It doesn’t need to be hurtful but all that will depend on how you date. Dating is a process. There is movement to it. It’s a… Read more
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When we are looking for someone to settle into marriage in dating, two things stand out; character and chemistry. Unlike the common understanding of character being a collection of certain characteristics, here’s what character looks like for the believer. 1. You must have the same allegiance with the person you are dating. You must be… Read more
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Dating is a means of evaluation and never a destination. It is not a status to dwell in, but a process to move through. It exists to help us discern whether or not we are meant to marry a particular person. Dating can be very risky but people are willing to risk the inevitable pain… Read more
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1 Corinthians 7:35 NASB[35] I say this for your own benefit, not to put a restraint on you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord. Sometimes the most loving gift God can give us is singleness. Singleness is a gift from God. That is exactly what theapostle Paul… Read more
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Dear single, the best thing you can bring in your relationship is a thriving walk with God. You must get a relationship with God right before you ever get arelationship with a guy or a girl right. Your relationship with a guy or a girl, though important, is not the most critical relationship in your… Read more
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1. You are not ready to date until you are fully aware of both the benefits and the dangers of dating. Once you understand not only the perks but also the pitfalls of dating, you are mature enough to begin opening yourself up to more serious relationships. The primary benefit of dating is the opportunity… Read more
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Genesis 24:64 TPT[64] As Rebekah got closer, she raised her eyes, and when she saw Isaac, she nearly fell off her camel! Genesis 24:67 TPT[67] Isaac fell in love with Rebekah. He took her to be his wife, and they were married, and he brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent. In this way, Isaac… Read more
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Dating can be filled with joy or pain. Take a look at the trends in dating in our century and desire to be better in it by avoiding the traps that come with it. 1. Intentional datingThis is being purposeful and driven by a clear goal: to determine whether the person you are dating is… Read more
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Your time of singleness is not wasted; it’s preparation. Your singleness is not a prison sentence you’reserving and you must therefore quit trying to free yourself from it. Many young people are too eager to get out of singleness. We must know that when God said of Adam, “It is not good for the man… Read more
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Communication is very important in any given relationship if it has to thrive. Communication exposes what is going on inside the human heart. The store of your heart determines the quality of your speech. Jesus said, “… out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” If your heart, your internal reality, is filled… Read more
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Hello 2025! I have longed so long to be in 2025 and finally here we are by the grace and mercies of God. 2024 was a dreadful year for me. My family and I went through a lot of testing and I questioned God on so many things. I found healing in letting it all… Read more
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I have been reading a book titled ‘Keep Your Love On’ by Danny Silk and it is one among the best relational books that I have come to read. It is such a rich book that provides practical knowledge on how to do relationships through having a connection and communicating with your partner whilst at… Read more
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It has been several months before I wrote an article in here. Honestly it is because this year has not turned out to be what I expected it to be. It has been a hard year for me. I have gone through so much turmoil within and without. I believe it is only logical when… Read more
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What do you do when the institution you devoted your life to, gave everything to and sacrificed everything for becomes your greatest source of pain? As a PK [Pastor’s Kid], I have seen my dad devote his time, resources, energy and sacrifice so much to the church yet it has become the source of most… Read more
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God, I think we need to have this conversation and I feel that it has been long overdue. Lord if I speak out of ignorance, please forgive me. I just need to understand several things in life that have been bothering me for a while now. Dear Lord, why has life had to be so… Read more
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I know you have lived a hurtful life as a PK just as I have and nothing about that journey was easy. I understand your struggles even though they could have been different in exercise, I know the deepest desire was to live a life just like any other child. I am sorry that was… Read more
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I will make this short because the thought of it makes my head ache. You did not have to be strong all the time. Mom you didn’t! I wanted to carry all your pain because I could evidently see you were hurting but I did not know how to. I wish hurt and pain was… Read more
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Hi dad? All I ever wanted was to be loved and be heard! I never wanted you to see me from the angle of a pastor’s son. I just wanted to be your kid. I just wanted to be like any other son was to his father. I always desired to get closer to you… Read more
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I wanted to die! At some point in life we lose sanity, get tired and say enough is enough. Pain and hurt has a way of driving you to the cliff and the only option you have is to throw yourself down. We are strong but we are only strong up to a certain point. … Read more
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I always wondered why people got into the habit of drinking alcohol and for the longest time I judged them for that. I have been raised in a Christian background and there are things we knew were of the world and we were and are not of the world. We knew that alcohol is a… Read more
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Even after I had ended things with Juliet, healing was not instant. I still struggled knowing and feeling I was loved. What I have now realized and deeply taken to heart is that undealt hurt is recurring hurt. You have to deal with pain and hurt when it occurs even if you do not get… Read more
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Right here is where I almost died. After Emily had moved to the Western part of our nation and I had also moved out to further my career, the chemistry naturally died with time. The need to be loved had not yet been met and no matter how much I tried to assume it was… Read more
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Spoiler alert, this is not where I almost died. It was far much later. The encounter with Jane had opened a door that I should never have walked through to the other side. However, it felt like that was where my solution lay. ‘Maybe Jane was not the right woman to get me the love… Read more
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Love is an integral part of the human life. Without love, I believe there is no meaning in life. Love has been depicted right from Genesis through Revelation in Scripture and is actually the main theme of the Holy Book. Psychology also agrees. If you study Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, love comes immediately after the… Read more
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Everybody deserves to be loved right? I believe the best form of love is that which comes from home. We all have that desire to be hugged, cuddled and be told ‘I love you.’ Growing up, for whatever reasons, I thought I was not loved. I am an introvert and I have been one all… Read more
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In the previous post, I pointed out that everyone goes through pain what differs are the experiences we go through that bring about the aforementioned. If you study the Word of God, pain seems to be like a necessity in the life of every believer. It is almost as if we must go through a… Read more
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We all go through hurt and pain in our lives. What differs are the experience we go through that bring about the pain. I am not an exceptional. I also have had my moments of pain and when I weigh life, they seem to take the bigger percentage of it. If I will be honest… Read more
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Greetings 2024! It’s surreal to acknowledge that we have already entered this year, particularly considering that March has arrived. This marks my inaugural post for the year, and while uncertain about what to write about, I’m aware of the need to publish something today. It has been a considerable duration since I last wrote anything,… Read more
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It’s sad that we elevated our egoand made it a rifle.We had dreamt of a future,Our love was about to mature.I called you wifeFor I owed you my lifeOur relationship was realUntil history began to unreel.Hurt you began to feeland our love began to peel. You saw the textand placed it out of context.Had you… Read more
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Hello Thayù, Amani, Pendo, Asaph and Sanaipei. Today is the 18th of June in the year of our Lord 2023. Read more
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In any given relationship be it dating or marriage, apologizing forms an integral pillar for the relationship to stand firm. Disagreements and conflicts will always be there and thus the need to apologize. You may come from cultures where men don’t apologize or in your upbringing, apologizing wasn’t given much thought. However, you need to… Read more
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In any given relationship, you expect there will be conflict. Truth is, you’re two different individuals with different perceptions, ideologies and philosophies in life. It takes a while to adjust to these and before then, you’ll find yourselves in differing sides. However conflict is not a sign you married a wrong person. It is actually… Read more
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One of the greatest mistakes young christians make in their dating relationships is thinking they can change the people they are dating. You must have heard this question being asked, “Can I marry an unbeliever?” Your faith cannot save another person. Only their faith can. Nothing should convince you that you can change an adult… Read more
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You have heard this often but I repeat it; there is no condom for the soul/spirit. The culture today has lied to so many of us that if we can wrap it up or swallow the pill, then we are safe. However safe sex is never really safe. Well, you can be safe from Sexually… Read more
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1. THE EUPHORIC STAGE.This is lovey-lovey stage. Here, couples are in love and that’s the only thing they feel. Little work is done here to make the relationship healthy or grow. The couple is in a cloud of its own filled with delight and ecstatic joy of being with each other. At this stage, nothing… Read more
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You find a lasting relationship when you are not actively looking for it. Adam was busy doing what God had commanded him to do and he did it so well that God had to stop him and give a wife. If you read Genesis 2:18, it is God who actually said that it is not… Read more
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Failure to be accountable in your dating relationship is setting yourself up for relational suicide. For your relationship to thrive and to leave no room for sin, then you need to be accountable on five levels. Sin thrives in secrecy and failure to be accountable is inviting compromise into that relationship. Many people do not… Read more
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We determine the kind of conflict we want to deal with in marriage by the kind of partner we choose. Who you marry is very important. Some have made hell out of their lives by the kind of people they married. Your choice of partner will either build you up or tear you down. I… Read more
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Dear future wife, I know I wrote you a letter before but I have to write another. Not that the first one was not good enough. No! It was actually a super cool letter. The reason why I am writing you a second letter is because I miss you. I know that sounds funny but… Read more
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I don’t know about you but I have watched the series How I met your Mother and even in it’s secular setting, there are quite a number of lessons one can learn about relationships. Dear sons and daughters, Today I am here to narrate of how I met your mother. Sadly, I haven’t met her… Read more
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Letting gowas the hardest for me.I could not let go of the memoriesYou and I had created over time.Often they resurface in my mindAnd tears flow. Tears of pain and regret. Forever was the goal.Funny how short that was. The pictures I have of youAre all I hold on to. If only I could tell… Read more
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If you are a follower of my tales of love episodes, it might have come clear that in all those friendships, I was always the victim. While it maybe so, it does not mean that I never hurt people in the process. It is cliché but at the same time true that hurt people hurt… Read more
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I tried pushing the door openBut it was locked from the inside.Not even my tears Could grease the hinges enoughfor it to open.Yet through the wall, I could hear you calling me forth.If only I could get to you through the windows,But those too,You had shut. I never knew,That the same door I had walked… Read more
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I am jealous. I am jealous that you will never be mine. I am jealous that it will not be my hands touching you. I am jealous that I will not be the one you call honey. I am jealous that it is not my bed you will sleep in. I am jealous that your… Read more
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2023 is going to be a good year. That I can tell foreal. If you are a church goer, then there is that theme for the year that was given prophetically on 1st Jan, right? Well, where I attended church, there was also a theme for the year. Actually, I would not refer to it… Read more
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Happy new year folks. Praise the Lord Jesus Christ unto whom we owe all praise and gratitude. I know we are six days in to the new year and it may seem a bit off to wish you a new year now but if you ask me, it is still new. We are only six… Read more
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I am so glad that we are coming to the end of yet another year. 2022 has been a year that is in its own league. I am however grateful that God has remained true to who His nature. He has indeed preserved us and made us His remnants. There is so much I could… Read more
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“Hey BP. I need to tell you something.” Pause. If there are words that are scary, they are those words that open this article and especially when they are coming from a young woman to a young man. I remember the time very well. It was 1:20am. Yes, 1:20am. I had just woken from my… Read more
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Guys, you remember the previous episode on Wangui? There was another Wangui. She is Wangui R. Heavens Gate Prayer Centre. This is where we first met. I had been invited by my friend Cynthia for a prayer and fasting event during the Easter Holidays of 2018 I assume. Forgive me because I am so poor… Read more
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Tall but not too tall. Petite. Beautiful smile. Beautifully curved. Humorous. Big heart. Good cook. Caring. I could go on and on and describe her. She is gem. I thought ghosts were the only thing that haunt people until I encountered memories. You see, Wangui and I have history and I must admit it is… Read more
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We are continually students of life and we are either green and growing or ripe and rotting. Which side are you on? I am passionate on learning on matters love. I am really working at it to be prepared when my mate finally comes. About two weeks ago, I attended a camp and we learnt… Read more
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I know it has not been easy for you. Neither has it been for me. It is a huge toll being a PK. Funny thing is, we never chose to be born here. You have done quite well so far. I was sharing with a group a week ago and I told them that one… Read more
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Dear God, Manze we need to talk because wueeeh! I have a lot on my mind right now. Nafeel overwhelmed at the moment na sijui if I can bear it anymore. Sikuwahi dhani ingewahi fika hii point where you and I are so distant. Honestly sijui tulifika hapa aje. In my mind, nafeel and I… Read more
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Well, I know I have portrayed a very self-righteous image of myself in the previous posts but let us be honest, I am not always in the right. At times I mess up and sometimes I mess up big time. This picture is a picture I hold dearly. It is a picture that reminds me… Read more
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Allow me to keep sharing these stories of love because if there’s something that has had a huge impact on my life, it is this. Well, after the breakup with my first love, I had decided that I will never love again. And true to it, I stuck to the promise. Little did I know… Read more
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Love is a beautiful thing. So they say! Well, in my experiences of life, I can tell you for free that it is ugly and chaotic, before getting to the beautiful part of it! I have heard of many tags about love. One of them is the opening statement of this tale. Others say love… Read more
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She borrowed my bookAnd I stole her heart.She was an empty bookAnd I was the pen.On her heartI inscribed my love.A chapter a dayWe write our tale.A tale of romance,Love and joy.She calls me bookI call her bae. Read more
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Scars.You can’t see themBut I have many.Broken heartBroken feelingsBroken Spirit. Scars.Fragile heartTorn fleshEmptied emotions Scars.Smooth skinWith deep cuts underneath.Bleeding with pain. Scars.They say time heals themBut mine are still fresh. Scars.ResentmentBitternessHurtPain. Scars.I’m a wounded warrior.whose scars dentthe Body, emotions and spirit. Call me Scars. Read more
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Un-Yes. Un-A prefix that has more than often troubled my personality. Unwanted, Unloved, Unambitious, Unskilled, Ungraceful, unmannered, unadorned, Unaccepted, are some of the words that have crowded my identity. More often than not, I find myself back to this maze where I feel so lost and the uncertainty that comes with it causes nausea. I… Read more
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To be honest, I am not a huge fan of birthdays. Probably because I have never celebrated any in my twenty five years of being alive. I have one in May and hopefully, my twenty sixth one will be different. Forget about that. Today it’s not about me but her. To be honest, I don’t… Read more
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I will never love again.Yes, I will never.You see,I put my heart on the line.Not once, not twiceand not even thrice.Multiple times. I had this fantasy.A fantasy of I being RomeoAnd her being JulietI had built castles in the air.And trust me,They were beautiful. But my heart,Oh my heart. It was broken,Crushed andTaken for granted.… Read more
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There is something specialabout this place.We have always sat side by sideEvery evening.Not to warm our bodies onlybut also toRekindle our love.This has always beenpart of our romance.I cannot recall the endless nightsWe dozed off by the fireplaceenjoying the warmthand I had to carry her on my armsTo bed.She loved it,Still does.And she often intentionallyFalls… Read more
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OftenI wake up feeling so unqualified.Wanting to give upWanting to call everything offMy insufficiencies engulf meLike a bubbleAnd whisper loudly how muchof nothingness I am.And honestly, sometimes I believe it.My inabilities seem to be weightier than who I really am.Unqualified. As my feelings betray meSo does my mind.It joins in the bloody warand almost immediately… Read more
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Oh my God!!! It’s been so long since I wrote y’all fam probably forgot about me. I am however elated to be back and share some of the works I have been upto. So, here’s a piece I just did. I love poetry and while this may be limited to the locals in Kenya, I… Read more
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I don’t know the initial thoughts that come to you when you think of Easter. To some us, it is a time to hang out with family, others time to relax and sleep, for some of us it is a watch that movie we so long desired. Whatever your thoughts are on Easter, here is… Read more
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While the gift of working in miracles has been highly been abused in our days, I believe God is still using people to manifest His power. It is a gift that I desire but I also I’m aware of the risk that comes with it. I still believe God is still working our miracles in… Read more
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People lie for several reasons but just because they do it doesn’t mean it is acceptable. Ina relationship, you are likely to find two kinds of liars. Those that lie out of guilt, shame , fear of conflict or the loss of love. They lie while in reality it is easier to actually tell the… Read more
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Your relationship with God is the deepest, most profound and most important part of your soul. Therefore, even as you choose to settle down with someone, you must be able to agree on the issues of spirituality early enough. You must put in mind this principle: you partner should not make you cold or lukewarm… Read more
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Hi darling, Heavens knows how eagerly I am waiting to call you mine. Truth is, I can’t fathom the feeling of being your husband. The thought of it makes me leap with love [you know that feeling where your body just vibrates to the thought of someone? I know you do] and at the same… Read more
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Luke 7 24 After John’s messengers left, Jesus began to speak to the crowd about John: “What did you go out into the wilderness to see? A reed swayed by the wind? 25 If not, what did you go out to see? A man dressed in fine clothes? No, those who wear expensive clothes and indulge in luxury are… Read more
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As a teacher, one among the many roles I play apart from teaching is that being of a mentor to the students I teach. While teaching the form 2 class today, a students raises his hand and asks me whether there’s hope for a person that has engaged in so much of sexual sin. And… Read more
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One of the greatest marks of our relationship with God is that of producing fruit. We cannot claim to love God and yet not produce fruit like He expects us to. Here is what Matthew says in chapter 7 16 Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of… Read more
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Hi fam. Can you believe we are in the year 2021? Oh yes we are! God has been an amazing God and surely we are here because of Him. It has been a while since I wrote on my platform. Since last year to be precise. Seems like so long ago. I however believe and… Read more
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One of the least understood yet most important foundational concept of new birth and teaching on salvation in our times is the grace of God. One of the most basic points we must note is that God’s grace is what makes possible the plan of salvation. Salvation comes from the grace of God that has… Read more
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At one time, maybe these lovely words from Song of Solomon (at the end of the lat article) described your marriage, but today they seem asforeign as Greek or Latin. As for the purposes of God in your marriage, perhaps you haven’t even considered them in a while. Maybe you’re experiencing a semblance of peace… Read more
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We’ve been talking about cherishing our wives, treating them with tenderness and holding them dear, despite our feelings. Let this article be a reminder to experience the wonder at what she’s given you and the enormous honor it is to carry her baton. Carry the honor nobly Your wife gave up her freedom for you.… Read more
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CHERISHING YOUR ONE AND ONLY Your outer defense perimeters—protecting your eyes and your mind—will defend against sexual impurities, guaranteeing that your wife remains beyond compare in your eyes. Now let’s talk about a third perimeter, your innermost perimeter, which is about being consumed with God’s purpose to cherish your wife. If Christians were consumed by… Read more
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This is a necessary topic of discussion and something we are all working on. Have your heart open to receive and keep reading to have your mind blown. Conversation on Purity : Interview w/ Crystal Lush Read more
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Here’s another helpful way of analyzing the “live”attractions in your life and what they mean for your mental defense perimeter. Let’s think about two types of women who will approach your corral: Women you find attractive. Women who find you attractive. Both categories have similar defenses, each designed to starve the attractions until she trots… Read more
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We all have in some way had our rough paths this year. The year 2020, will always be that year we would refer to in some year’s time. But the reality of a Bible chapter the Lord gave me earlier this year even when it was so not looking like it for me has kept… Read more
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EVERY MAN’S BATTLE: VICTORY WITH YOUR MIND. 1. YOUR MUSTANG MIND As you build the outer defense perimeters, you’ll find that the perimeter of the eyes goes up much faster than the perimeter of the mind. Why? First, the mind is far more crafty than your eyes and more difficult to corral. Second, you really… Read more
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Hi guys. It has been a while since I wrote. There comes a time when you just take an intentional break and refill your cup so that it doesn’t run dry. While on the break, my good friend Ms Kavata who is a blogger, requested me to be part of a series she was doing… Read more
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3. YOUR SWORD AND SHIELD These strategies for bouncing and starving the eyes may sound rather simple. Maybe even easy to do. But they aren’t. Satan fights you with lies, while your body fights you with the desires and strength of deeply entrenched bad habits. To win, you need a sword and a shield. Of… Read more
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Smiles. I never saw this in the light of what I would be sharing with you, today. On this particular Sunday, we had finished church service, concluded every activity needed to be done and we were getting set to leave. But then we had to wait a while for all of us to leave at… Read more
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At this juncture, I really would want to remind us that the content in this series has heavily been borrowed from the book Every Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. I have actually borrowed word for word on most of the articles in this series only adding notes that I felt also ought… Read more
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As you set up your defense perimeter with your eyes, a further strategic approach is to think of starving the eyes. Remember again our definition for sexual purity: You are sexually pure when no sexual gratification comes from anyone or anything but your wife. Our battle centers on oursexual gratification. Let’s picture that gratification in… Read more
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To set up your first defense perimeter with your eyes, youwant to employ the strategies of bouncing your eyes and starving your eyes as well as the tactic of taking up a “sword” and a “shield.” Let’s first consider bouncing. You can win this battle by training your eyes to “bounce” away from sights of… Read more
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What do the first four words of the Bible mean to you? Are they just the first four words of the Bible or are they the foundation on which you base your life’s success? Listen in to @edwin_maina and I as we get to see how these four words should form the basis of successful… Read more
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Let’s say you’re in the landing craft ready to attack your sexual sin. You’ve made your decision. You’ve decided tofollow your leaders as you storm the beach. The landingcraft ramp falls open. With a shout, you step courageously into the fray. But, unknown to you, the deceptive oceancurrents have flushed a deep hole on the… Read more
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Okay, so you’ve decided it’s time to fight. And you realize that your battle for sexual purity will cost you something. It will require sacrifice, intensity, and honor. But let’s get something else in clear view: What can you expect to gain by choosing manhood and the purity that goes with it? By winning this… Read more
