Our culture’s acceptance of premarital sex has caused more problems pain in dating and marriages today than we could have imagined. The idea that it is okay, or even recommended, for people to have sex outside ofmarriage is a very recent strange change. In the Bible, there was supposed to be no hint of premarital… Read more

Here’s how God loves us. His love is so reckless. You have messed in the past and you think God is done with you but guess what, He gives you a second chance to rewrite your story. God desires to take you back to the beginning, because His plans far outreach your plans. His design… Read more

God doesn’t cut us to kill us but to heal us. It’s the difference between experiencing the blade of a dagger in a back-alley attack and the blade of a scalpel in an operating room. The pain of recovery is so intense after an operation because the body responds the same as if it had… Read more

Have you ever felt like you were a mistake? Have your parents told you they wished you had never been born? Are you a child whose parents have told you: “I wish you would have died when you were a baby”? You may have come into this world as the result of a rape. Your… Read more

Hello my WordPress fam. My good friend Keith has a session with us who are single and looking forward to that time when we will get a mate. Join us at 5:45pm Kenyan time (EAT) via zoom as we get to discuss on this very important issue Here’s his message for us. Dear King In… Read more

We live in a world that has more and more relationships andless and less love, more and more sex and less and less intimacy-Mike Todd. People are together for all the wrong reasons in our age. The pop culture has given us this ideology of hit and run kind of situationships where dating, sex and… Read more

Never force a relationship to work. The flower doesn’t dream of the bee. It blossoms and the bee comes. What’s meant for you will fit into you. What’s right fits. When you go into a shoe shop you only settle on what suits you.. Treat relationships that way. Spend time knowing God and yourself so… Read more

A key thing to note is that narcissists are predictable. Once you figure a person is a narcissist, you can always figure out what he will do and is capable of doing. A relationship with a narcissist is the kind of “Beauty and the Beast” relationship. Its full of fantasy. The beast never changes, really.… Read more

Most people dating the narcissist assume the CARETAKER ROLE with or without them knowing. This means that you play the role of making this relationship work and you like ‘baby sit’ this narcissist. You try please them and get the best for them but to the narcissist, this life is all about them. Therefore it… Read more

Narcissism simply defined is selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need for admiration, as characterizing a personality type. We have commonly come across people with this trait in our families, society in our relationships. It could be even you. Among the characteristics of narcissistic persons include: An increased sense… Read more

You probably have heard of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. He states his order or level of needs that need to be met to make life conducive from the most basic at the bottom of the pyramid. Using that same illustration, here’s a pyramid for the hierarchy of our dating relationships.☝🏿 At the bottom of the… Read more

“What a sad thought it is, that some of us will surrender and settle down long before we have met the person we are supposed to love” Beau Taplin I write this so I will not flow with the distractions of anyone who may come wrapped up in a cloth like yours but not yours.I… Read more

In dating, your property is your own soul and that is what boundaries seek to protect. Boundaries surround the life God has given you to maintain and mature, so that you can become the person He created you to be. Here are some of the contents of your self that boundaries define and protect. 1.Your… Read more

Boundaries in relationships are very important. A boundary is a property line. Just as a physical fence marks out where your yard ends and your neighbor’sbegins, a personal boundary distinguishes what is your emotionalor personal property, and what belongs to someone else. Youcan’t see your own boundary. However, you can tell it is therewhen someone… Read more

I cannot really overemphasize the fact that a thriving relationship with God is the best asset you can bring into your dating relationship. If your walk with God is thriving, then you will be able to relate healthily with people and especially your dates in this context. Why so? Your relationship with God will dictate… Read more

Some of us have this notion that we have to be in a relationship to be happy. While I don’t rule out that relationships indeed have a joy in them, they should never be our primary source of Joy. God is and must be our primary source of Joy. Whenever you find that you your… Read more

As soon as there is any kind of deception in your relationship, stop everything. The whole thing is a farce, and you should not go any further until yousettle the issue of deception. At that point, that is the most important thing you ought to work on. Trust is everything in a relationship, and when… Read more

Matthew 6:33But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (KJV) The best place to find a godly person is on the road to God’s Kingdom. When looking for the person,look for him/her wherever the Spirit of God is. Why? In God’s scheme, wefind… Read more

We’ve often found ourselves asking that question right? “Can we kiss? Can we cuddle? For how long can we hug? Can s/he sleep over?” These are some of the questions we often try to use as a bargain with sin. “I promise we will only kiss. No sex. I promise.” Is that not what we… Read more

Almost every person has a list of the things he or she would want in their mate but most people are not even half of what they are looking for. Everybody seems to be looking for a service nobody is offering. Would you marry you? Are you the person whom the one you’re looking for… Read more

The world has many false ideas about the Christian and sex and unfortunately some Christians have these notions embedded in their belief system. The standard for the believer is to reserve sex for the marriage bed between one man and one woman. This may seem an archaic move for many contemporary people, but we must… Read more

A question many professing believers ask is Is it okay for me to date or marry an unbeliever? The answer may seem to obvious to many mature followers of Jesus, but for many growing believers, this question ought to be answered well for them to understand why the answer is No. Often there is a… Read more

Falling in love is as a result of expended time, conversations and emotions with someone of the opposite sex. The general anatomy of an Emotional Affair is this: Exclusive and consistent energy spent with someone else of the opposite sex will create a connection between the two of you. If this is not a person… Read more

As opposed to the power based masculinity which states that , The more power you have the more masculine you are, What the world needs right now is men who are led by values. Power based masculinity is based on the 3G’s; Girls, Gold and Glory but Value Based Masculinity is based on God who… Read more

The message of purity is primarily for the believer not the unbeliever. We must pursue purity for the sake of the gospel. The gospel is not a pile up of more morality. It is to turn away from sin and follow Jesus and it demands spiritual fruit and not religious nuts. The pursuit of purity… Read more

A man or woman who is not accountable is dangerous. Marrying a man or woman who is not accountable is relational suicide. The charm of the enemy is made for the lone rangers. Men and women who get into cycles of moral degeneration often have superficial friendships with fellow men and women. Accountability helps one… Read more

Committing to love and overcoming the temporary feelings is not enough. Your commitment needs the resolve to withstand the waves of feelings if you’re committed to something solid. If you get attracted to a woman’s beauty, you will lose it when another attractive woman comes your way. If you commit to a man’s bank account,… Read more

The Bible speaks of what is today known as soul ties. In the Bible, it doesn’t use the word soul tie, but it speaks of them when it talks about souls being knit together, becoming one flesh, etc. A soul tie can serve many functions, but in it’s simplest form, it ties two souls together… Read more

In order to attract “The One” we must be prepare for/to love and ready for them. What expectations do you have on love? In order to attract what you want, you need to be that. We often have those huge well written lists of who or how we want our mates to look like but… Read more

Our soulmates seldom appeal to our personality—our ego. That’s why they are called soulmates rather than egomates. —Carolyn G. Miller, Soulmates In his book Soul Mates, author Thomas Moore defines a soul mate as _“…someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the… Read more

When human relationships fail … they fail because they were entered into for the wrong reason. One reason that so many relationships fail is that we are going into them for reasons that can’t sustain us. We’re afraid to be alone. We want someone to give us what our parents did not. We are hoping… Read more

Isn’t amazing and exciting that God first appeared on the scene of human history in the role of a matchmaker? (Gen 2:22) What human mind can fathom the depth of love and joy that filled the heart of the great Creator as He united the man and woman in the first marriage ceremony between Adam… Read more

One, among many, reasons why we don’t pursue the mission of God is because we have made marriage an end goal. Inasmuch as we desire marriage, we must recognize it is not the ultimate goal of life. Marriage is a good and noble union that men and women should pursue. In fact it is one… Read more

It was hard to let you go It was sad to see you off I don’t understand why We couldn’t be You were my lover You were my girl. I remember our vows To each other By the lake. The birds chirped As they sang to Our love. The breeze whispered Our mutual feelings In… Read more

You have heard of the notion that God has a specific individual that you will marry. That God has already chosen that one mate, preserved for you and whom you will marry, right? However, you will notice as you read Genesis that the true pattern of God is that God presented the woman to the… Read more

When God created Adam, He gave the man seven gifts that fulfilled his singleness and made him a complete individual. It is this gifts that made him effective in his work. These are the same gifts that we are to follow if we are to become effective singles. _1. Image._ God’s first gift to us… Read more

We are all aware of the saying that a wife’s money is hers alone and the husband’s is theirs, right? I strongly believe that this is a misplaced thought and especially in our times. Therefore, before getting into marriage, it is very important that you and your mate get a well laid out financial plan.… Read more

In your financial planning, have three categories, namely the Savings, the Spending and the Sharing. Why the three categories? There are essentially only three things you can do with money. You can save it, you can give it away, or you can spend it. Deciding the percentage that you will allocate to each of these… Read more

God has established a high standard for marriage but this does not mean it is unattainable. There is one condition of unique importance, which stands like a gateway at the threshold of the life God has prepared for His people. All who would enter into His plan for their lives must pass through this gateway.… Read more

There is a difference between being single and being unmarried. Most unmarried people consider themselves single. It is singleness that makes a marriage so successful. The more single you and your mate become become, the more your marriage improves. The average person has never been single, even though he or she may be unmarried or… Read more

Does it not worry you that your kid will grow up or is already growing up knowing sex before marriage is a kawaida thing? A norm? Alot of misconceptions have come up concerning sex in the recent past and this is negatively affecting our teens and youth! We need to say it o’er and o’er… Read more

Quoting pastor Marion, “We live in a generation that thinks its knows so much about love but in the real sense knows nothing about it.” Truth be told, we live in a generation that shows so much love outwards yet experiences little of it. The question that therefore begs is, “Where did we go wrong?”… Read more